As I was about to start writing this post, I asked my sister what word of wisdom I have spoken to her and you will not believe what she said.
She said that I told her to be selfish.
Imagine! Me oh, telling her to be selfish😂
To top it all up, she added that she took it to heart and have been applying it to her daily life.
That’s how I started explaining myself to her. Detailing what I meant and didn’t mean. But then, there was no need because she already understood what I meant by that statement the day I mentioned it.
So in the spirit of sharing some words of wisdom, I’ll also share the same words of wisdom with you.
Not in the sense you are thinking. Wait first let me explain before you agree or disagree with me.
Now, my explanation.
For the past year and some months plus, I have made certain life choices out of pure selfishness. I have chosen to do some things and not do some other things because I wanted to put me first. Being selfish for me means putting my needs first.
Being very particular and intentional about my development and focusing on it. Because honestly, at the end of the day, if you aren’t selfish and intentional about your growth and life direction/choices, you would have no value to give back to the world.
So basically, you are being selfish to be generous. I’m not sure if that makes sense to you but I’ll try to explain further. So let’s take me for example, if I am not selfish with my time, I would not be typing this.
I chose to ignore all the messages and apps and websites and social media demanding my attention and decided to be selfish with my time and spend it writing/sharing this word of wisdom with you.
I was selfish to be generous
Sometimes I get selfish like that when I want to read a book or take a course. I think of my future, I think of the impact it’ll make in my life and the lives of others. Then I pick it over some other random thing that wouldn’t have so much positive effect in my life.
So at the end of the day, I am selfish with my time, my resources, my actions and make my decisions selfishly for me. Not for someone else. After all, it’s my life!
Please apply this positively oh. Not negatively.
I hope it makes some sense to you and you learned one or two things from it.
Also, let me know what you think about this train of thought